Some links for mother/bride dynamics

http://www.albumboutique.com/blog/wedding-tips/shawns-suggestions-planners-observations-motherdaughter-wedding-dynamic-2/
http://www.netplaces.com/mother-of-the-bride/your-responsibilities/how-to-avoid-the-pushy-mob-label.htm

http://voices.yahoo.com/wedding-planning-avoiding-mother-daughter-conflict-239740.html

http://www.celebratewithstyle.com/site/survival-guide-tips-for-the-mother-of-bride
The above one kinda is touchy to me, because we were at their house the weekend of June 21st 2013 and she was planning on having her MOH (Maid of Honor) come out on the train and take her, the MOG (Mother of Groom), BM2, BM3 (who was later kicked out for not agreeing with my daughter on something, daughter demanded she apologize, BM3 said 'Ok, I'll apologize if you want' and daughter said no, I want a true apology. Wasn't happenin', didn't happen, BM3 kicked out. Anyway, she planned on dress shopping AFTER I left. Don't know if it was intentional or not, but it hurt...a little. She ended up with a FABULOUS dress and very good price (especially when I texted her and told her the sale was only until July 1st), and she bought it. She looked like a PRINCESS.


http://www.netplaces.com/mother-of-the-bride/your-responsibilities/above-and-beyond.htm

I just wish I had looked at these websites before I got involved.
Please note that I'm STILL involved, talking to Patty our wedding planner on a generic 'what if?' basis, like not SPECIFICALLY about the wedding, but writing and speaking generalizations, as if I was bemusing someone ELSE'S wedding...using lots of 'hypothetically's' and 'WHAT IF's'.

I feel sad and got teary-eyed at her voicemail on July 30 2013, but when I go online and research this type of thing, I feel a little better, until the NEXT day, when I notice she's 'unfriended' me from Facebook. I mean, I can still go on her fiance's site and see what's going on, but again, it hurts.
Just because she gets mad at what she says is my 'trying to run her wedding for her', does that necessitate HURTING me?